Four Secrets to Wonderful Wedding Memories

A bride's wedding day should be one of the most wonderful days of her life. It should offer a lifetime of wonderful memories regardless of whether it is an elegant affair with a live string quartet and crystal all around or a casual celebration on the beach, the images of that day should linger in the new couple's mind among the best memories of their lives. Unfortunately wedding day stress means that all too often brides are not able to relax and enjoy the celebration.

What a pity.

Especially since with a little bit of thought and preparation the bride's enjoyment of her wedding day can skyrocket.

How?

First, recruit help with your wedding planning. Make use of the fact that most guys love their high tech toys and get the groom to take over distributing digital photographs, videos, maps to the venue(s) and hotels by building a website that your guests can go to keep themselves up to date on the latest developments. Most of all, have him include a password protected page on the website where private wedding plans can be posted so you can access them from your web enabled cell phone anytime you need access to your wedding plans. It's a whole lot better than carrying a notebook around with you every where you go just in case you need to info.

Furthermore, if you have a relative whose style is in tune with your own who also has skills that the wedding might benefit from, make use of those skills if the individual is willing. This is a great way to personalize your wedding - which will help build those great wedding memories.

Likewise, don't hesitate to delegate. Think of yourself as something akin to the director of a Broadway musical rather than a gopher. You need other people to help you take care of the details that don't need your decision making facilities associated with mounting a wedding. Of course, with delegation comes the need to be willing to accept that the guest book might be placed two feet closer to the door than you would have chosen to place it – but that is all right.

Second, communicate far more than seems necessary. This means listen as well as talk. Where your wedding professionals are concerned they need to know clearly what you want, but if you have chosen well qualified professionals they also have experience that a wise bride can benefit from. Likewise, most of the people working to help mount your wedding are working as a labor of love but that won't get them far if they don't know what you want and tensions will mount if they feel taken advantage of - and no one wants that as that is a perfect recipe to spoil those wedding memories.

Third, prepare.

Seem obvious?

It does to me too, but you would be amazed to find how many brides have forgotten to bring the little things that will do the most to prevent the little disasters that turn into major problems. Things like spot remover. Extra bandages. Extra sanitary necessities. A needle and tread to fix last minute goofs. There are so many things. It is easy to think you can cover them all (and you can) but it is often simpler to purchase a pre-made wedding day survival kit that should have all the bases covered except for a light snack – stick with veggies, lean meats, and / or crackers, they'll tide you over without upsetting your stomach.

Finally, the man we know as Mark Anthony - the great General and friend of Julius Caesar said, "The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts, therefore, guard accordingly; and take care that you entertain no notion unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature."

The writer of the biblical book of Philippians said something similar: " Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." Philippians 4:8 (New International Version)

Nothing goes exactly as planned. The secret to creating great wedding memories is to choose our focus. If we dwell on the last minute stain on the grooms tux or the fact that the florist had to settle for merely red flowers instead on the deep red we dreamed of, then our wedding memories will be tainted with regret or frustration. If on the other hand focus on the love that is being celebrated and all the sacrifices our loved ones made to celebrate with us, then we truly can have wonderful wedding day memories that we can cherish.

Wonderful Wedding Day Memories